Monday, April 19, 2010

cheer up sunshine

A couple of months ago I was feeling pretty down on myself. Wasn’t feeling like I was doing all that I could to be the best me, the best mom, the best woman I could be. I felt alone, felt like no one understood me…I didn’t even understand myself. So I reached out to my friends. And I asked them if there is one piece of advice you could give me what would it be? The responses I got are below:

-Live, Laugh, Learn 
-Be brave enough to be true to yourself and love yourself more than you ever thought possible.
-Live, love, laugh, and don’t let anyone kill your happiness!
-Learn to relax
-Stay strong, remember each choice you make holds not only your future walk in life but also respects your daughter life choices. Children learn by following.
-Wake up every morning appreciating something because we aren’t guaranteed a tomorrow
-Don’t give a F what other people think of you
-Love Solana and give her everything you wish you had and wanted
-Stay focused, the light is at the end of the tunnel
-Stop procrastinating and do your homework
-Always keep your glow
-Live, love, and laugh to the fullest, letting no one and nothing keep you down

I was overwhelmed by the responses I received from my friends and family and I was so glad they took the time to respond. I was so down on myself and feeling so negative that I wasn’t able to see all the goodness in and around me. As a young single mom, I feel like I’m racing to catch up most of the time. Like I’m so much further behind other 24 year olds. I have a child, I mean, I’m not dead! My daughter is happy and healthy and a ray of sunlight in my life and in the life of those we love.

I adore her and she looks up to me. Just the other day she told me when she was older she wanted to cut her hair off when she gets older so she could be 'pretty just like mommy'. And me, well I’m fighting the fight because that’s all I know how to do. I'm taking damn good care of my daughter, working, and putting myself through school. And you know what, I'm damn proud of myself.


  1. As well you should be! I remember feeling that way. I remember being so down on myself for being in an unhappy marriage with 2 kids and just feeling like I wasn't doing what I was meant to do with the life I'd been given. Now, I know that I'm who I need to be and any improvements are just to make me MORE fabulous!

  2. Thanks!! I'm proud of myself for taking the right steps (for me) to better myself, though I still find that I'm lonely and my head is often stuck in the what if mode..I gotta snap outta it though!

  3. Aww, I would've told you that you are DOING IT, mama! Like I said when I first "met" you - look at your daughter! She's always cheesing - that means you are doing an awesome job balancing your roles. Keep your head up and if you feel things getting out of whack, take a breath and start again tomorrow. :)

  4. Just saw your blog on the D-list and wanted to let you know I love this post! What great perspective!

  5. hi! I just found you from the D List and this post is great!! You may be a single mom and have it hard sometimes but at least you have your little girl. (Who is adorable). :)

    Come check me out! :)

  6. I was a single momma for a few years and that is some hard stuff and there are days you get lost in the shuffle. I think your friends gave you great advice and if you can repeat some of those like a mantra you should be just fine!
    Found you through the D-list come check me out.

  7. What an awesome, uplifting post! Sounds like you've got a lot to be proud of at 24! :)

  8. Great Post, Mama! You should be proud of yourself--you are an amazing woman and mother.

  9. Wow thank you very much for the support!! I feel blessed every day to wake up with a roof over my head food in my fridge a car to drive(even if it isnt the best and the service light is always on) to wake up to a beautiful and healthy daughter and to go to work everyday. I decided I wanted to make something of myself and wanted to build a future for my daughter and myself. I choose to be a positive role model for my daughter. My hard work is slowly paying off and it gives me encouragement to keep on going! Thank you all, and I look forward to connecting!

  10. Visiting from D-Listed and I have to say this is just the post I needed to read today. Your words of wisdom are fantastic and something we should all take to heart.

    Thanks for taking the time to blog about it :)

    Sarah from Style By Mommy

  11. You should be proud. The smile on her face says it all. Keep doing what you're doing :)


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