Friday, September 3, 2010

Life full of Plan B's

Plan A: Graduate from College #1
Plan B: Take a job as a Nanny then get knocked up

Plan A: Keep my job throughout my pregnancy
Plan B:  Fired not even 1/2 way through my pregnancy

Plan A: Sexy sleek black small SUV…fully loaded
Plan B: 1996 Toyota Camry

Plan A: First apartment = Complete Awesomeness
Plan B: First apartment=1 bedroom hole in the wall

Plan A: Super chipper always happy Mom
Plan B: Often annoyed aggravated- due- to –lack- of- sleep Mom

Plan A: Together Forever with my daughter’s father
Plan B: Try to have a mature understanding for the sake of our daughter

Plan A: Single life, no kids, gorgeous loft apartment, fly car, hott bod
Plan B: Kid at 19, ok apartment, crappy car, and not so hott bod

Plan A: Perfect Family = Mom, Dad, Kids
Plan B: Family = Mom + Daughter

My life has been all about Plan Bs. I’ve always had an idea of how I wanted to do things and where I wanted my life to go. Then BAM! Life instantly changes, and all I can do to try to find my balance with the new changes. And as soon as I get some stability and create new visions for my future BAM, this roller coaster of a life heads down around and to the side and I once again have to find my ground. Funny how life has a way of constantly changing. And yet, change is one of the things I fear. Funny.

What I have yet to learn and fully understand, is that these Plan Bs are not Plan Bs…they are what was meant to be, for me and my life. All that has happened all the pain I have gone through, all the bs I had to deal with, all the people I have met along the way…it’s all happened for a reason and has brought me to the place I am today. If I never would have given my daughter’s father my number, I would never been able to meet my beautiful beautiful daughter.

So I’ll still create visions for my futures, but recognize that what will be, will be.

And all I can do is prepare myself for the journey.


  1. It's weird, yet refreshing, that we've had similar experiences. I believe that EVERYTHING happens for a reason. I also believe that God has a sick sense of humor,lol. All these curve balls just continue to make us the awesome women/moms that we are. I think there are some things we can plan for but everything else is a testament to our faith.

  2. Wow, there sure are a lot of plan B's aren't there...however I hope most of them lead to the same place in the end. :)

    Heather from Mommy Only Has Two Hands!

  3. I love this and I'm posting a link to here. You are awesome, you rock my socks off. LOL.

  4. It took me a while to realize that everything that I had ever gone through was for different reasons. It was to make me strong..and to make me determined. I never expected getting pregnant twice before I graduated college. I thought surely after my second child, graduation wouldn't come anytime soon. Nevertheless, I had my second child when I was 21 years old in 2009 and as we speak, I'm currently a Senior in college. I cant say that I wouldn't have made it this far, because I definitely would have. What I can say is that I wouldn't have appreciated my struggle as much. It took me a while to get adjusted to change. I'm getting better at it; after all, change is the only thing that's constant. I just want to make sure that I'm changing for the better!

    Good luck with everything. I enjoy reading your blog.

  5. Let me just start off by saying that I KNEW I was gonna love this post when I first read the title. And I did. HAHA.

    Plan B... you can say that again! You hit it right on the nail with that one. But that's the thing that I love about Plan B's (after the denial and crying and "what the eff's?"). I love how we (as mommies and young mommies) can take a Plan B and make something absolutely fabulous out of it! And you have. And that just makes you more stronger, more competent, more fabulous!

  6. of always, another great post!

    i totally concur! plan B is the story of my life as well LOL


  7. Great, great post. So original. I am glad I am your follower. Stopping by from Surviving Motherhood.

    Hope you will stop by and keep in touch.

  8. Love this post!

    I totally agree that you are exactly where you supposed to be in life. I feel more blessed because of my sidetracked moments. My daughter wasn't planned but I thank God for her everyday, and now that I have her my old Plan A doesn't even compare!

    Take Care =)

  9. That is a great post and it is so true. It doesn't really matter how well you plan your life out. What is meant to be will be. You just have to accept that life can and will be unpredictable.

  10. Thanks for the support ladies :) I've come to the realization that everything does happen for a reason even if you dont see or understand that until later. And sometimes its much later. And you are def right Sweet Al, we take these Plan B's and make the best of the situations...we have too.

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  12. That is just so funny but I just wrote a blog post on that last week!
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  13. Loved this! Life really is full of Plan B's, but like you said it is because that is what is meant to be. Things happen in our life for a reason, and we may not understand it until later on, but there is will for each one our lives. You just have to make the best of the situation and realize you are who you are because of your plan b's or plan a's for that matter :)

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  15. So now I have a 17 yr old daughter who seems to be making her plan a's, but as mom I know she will have the plan b's. I just wish there was a way to explain to her that like is never what we expect.

  16. I love this posts and I as well have experienced both Plan A's and B's in my life, but throught it all I wouldn't trade it for the world, because it has made me into the wonderful person I am today. Thanks for sharing this and I'm now following your blog and looking forward to reading more. I have a blog award for you on my blog.

    Diary of a Chic Mommy


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